We all know it is best to worry about ourselves and not others—so how come it so hard at times to do so? It is time to practice putting on the words, Judgment Free Zone. These are words that have been a game changer for how I show up to life and I want to offer them to you too. We can’t always control our first thoughts but we do have power to decide our second and third thoughts. When we think negative thoughts towards others or want to start to judge a person, let us remember that judgement only causes us misery, not the person we are judging. When we think of how to be happy in life we will do best if we just keep our focus on ourselves. A mentor of mine offered me these words to say, “change me, bless them” when I find I don’t agree with how someone is doing something and want to start passing judgment. Or like the quote says, “the happiest people I know are evaluating and improving themselves. The unhappy people are usually evaluating and judging others.” This life is too short to be unhappy. Where are you spending your time and focus?
I share a story referenced from this talk From Elder Dale G. Rendlund, “Do Justly, Love Mercy, and Walk Humbly with God.” https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2020/10/55renlund?lang=eng. . You can find the whole message here but the story shows the importance of not judging others and continually keeping our focus on ourselves as we improve to become better.As we begin to work on a judgement free zone in our own lives, we will discover how to put on love for ourselves. I will share three simple tips to work on a better relationship with you and how to let go of judgments when they come up.
What words will you put on today?